At a recent yoga class, the instructor shared something that stayed with me:
Imagine you have a glass of water in your hand. Take a look at it. Maybe it's half full. Maybe it's half empty. Don't worry too much about those things. Instead, ask yourself -- how heavy is it?
If you hold that glass for a second, it probably feels very light.
If you hold the glass for an hour, your arm may start to tingle.
If you hold that glass for a day, your whole body shakes from the effort.
The point is, the longer you hold it, the heavier it feels. You could hold that glass forever, until it paralyzes you.
Or you could set it down.
I hear the phrases like "let it go" and "be open" and "tell the truth" all the time. I even say these things. But every so often, I am reminded how hard it is, for all of us, to live by such sentiments. We have our demons. We get scared and embarrassed and overwhelmed. We tell lies to protect others, and ourselves. We hide. We hurt. We hate.
We try to be perfect on the outside, convincing ourselves on the inside that, if he or she really knew me, there's no way I could still be lovable.
This is the worst lie of all. Every time I start to believe that italicized line, I get further away from myself and the people I care most about. And every time I hear about an internal battle someone else is fighting, I think about how hard we all often work to keep up the facade of making this living business look easy.
But it's not. It's not easy, even when it seems like it should be. Even when it feels like everybody else has figured out the secret.
You can't find relief from the ache of holding onto your weights unless you put them down. You can't seek peace and acceptance if you linger in your own shadows. You can't receive the love and support you deserve until you acknowledge that, yes, you deserve these things.
Everyone has their own glass of water. Sometimes it's the same one for weeks or years, and other times it's like you get a new pour every day of another thing to measure and hold onto.
Try to set your weight aside today, and be there for the people in your life who need a helping hand to put their glasses down as well.