Wednesday night, I went to dinner with a few awesome girlfriends. Our conversation veered in all kinds of directions: blogging, digital strategy, writing, co-working spaces, career goals, conferences, social media and so on. I noticed two things.
First, the subject of relationships hardly came up (except for a quick Tinder story and a breakdown of "significant other" v. "life partner" titles). I found that refreshing; though I love talking about relationships, sometimes there's an assumption that that's all women do talk about. Which isn't true. I remember watching Sex and the City in college and thinking, don't they talk about anything else, ever? One of my favorite episodes is when Miranda calls her friends out for that exact thing. I talk about all sorts of things with my female friends, and while sometimes relationships dominate the conversation depending on what's going on, there's also plenty of other things to discuss, both mundane and serious.
Second, one friend shared an excellent tip for business brainstorming: read as much as you can, on all sorts of topics, and then use post-it notes to jot down the key concepts, ideas or thoughts you come across. Save notes in one place, and every so often, just look at all the notes together. Notice patterns and see where your mind wanders, because you might stumble onto something novel. (This is apparently how the founder of Priceline came up with his idea.)
I like this idea so much. There is so much to read, all the time -- articles and books and stories, online or not -- and it can be hard to remember to go back to the things you've already read and actually use the tips, think about the ideas, and so on. You have to take time to see how the pieces of information might fit together. It's why creative types recommend taking long showers or walks or breaks throughout your process -- because you need time to just let it all sink in, and that's when you usually have the next breakthrough.
Similarly in your life, it's so important to take the time to reflect what you've already done or experienced, instead of moving full speed ahead with blinders on. And in yoga, savasana is one of the hardest poses because you're not supposed to do anything during it. Your only job is to ... relax, rest, and enjoy the benefits of your practice.
So instead of fitting in a yoga class on Wednesday, I did a couple Sun A salutations at home and then focused on nourishing a few new friendships. And there was a moment at dinner, with our wine and pizza, where I looked around the table and felt grateful to be surrounded by such bright energy. Physical rest rejuvenates our bodies, but resting in the presence of other people sustains our spirits.