Weekend Reads

A few days late (SF recap to come!), but here's what I've been reading. Oh, and if you haven't voted yet, GO NOW. Here are 5 reasons why.

A personal story that about size and weight that will likely make you uncomfortable. Or maybe that's just me. I recognized myself at points in this essay, even if I'd rather not admit it. I admire her attempt to cut through the bullshit of the game of pretend women sometimes play: that staying fit and healthy -- or specifically, thin -- does not take work. I like that she asks why some women play this game for the benefit of others (namely, men). I don't prefer her particular version of fit/healthy for my own life, and I think there's some concerning paths of thought here that I wouldn't promote to my, let's say, 16-year-old sister, but I do think it's powerful that she basically owns up to the fact that she makes an effort -- something I think a lot of women wouldn't actually do. Related: see this Instagram.

Two things I do, in fact, want to eat soon, and my new favorite snack bar (discovered at a coffee shop in Iowa City).

"There is nothing wrong with celebrities (or men) claiming feminism and talking about feminism. I support anything that broadens the message of gender equality and tempers the stigma of the feminist label. We run into trouble, though, when we celebrate celebrity feminism while avoiding the actual work of feminism." -- Roxanne Gay, whose collection of essays I devoured on a recent plane ride

A theme in my yoga classes lately.

A HILARIOUS flow chart to help you practice the art of not giving a shit.

6 ways to deal with rejection, if you've been served up big heaping bowls of No lately in life. #3 and #6 particularly resonated with me.

A different perspective on posing nude from some badass Playboy alums.

Oh, and I'm a new convert to Baldwin denim. I usually spend $40 at Gap on a pair of jeans, but that was six years ago, so I sucked it up and invested in some quality pairs, all thanks to Kiley.

Another great interview with Mindy. I could sit in a room and listen to her talk all day long.

So again, if you have time to read this post, you have time to go vote. The end. And if you voted, YAY YOU! You're awesome.

Weekend Reads

After a mini blog hiatus, I've been fully tugged into fall. This is my favorite time of year, not because of pumpkin spice lattes and boots and colorful leaves -- and liking those things makes me basic, right? -- but because it reminds me of going back to school, of newness and exploration concurrent with rooting down and warming up from the inside out. It's a busy period, and right now I'm continually reminded that a full calendar is not the same thing as a full life. My calendar is filled with yoga classes to teach and college writing lessons to plan and work projects to finish and conferences to attend and friends to visit and freelance articles to write and family to see and art center meetings to prepare, and some days, it feels like too much. Because it is a little too much, even if it's all good. Seeing 21 unfinished blog posts in my drafts folder forced me to check back in with my own priorities... somehow writing is always one of the first things to fall off my list, even though it's one of the most important.

That being said, let's officially kick off this season with a round of weekend reads ...

"It’s OK to want what you want. In fact, if you don’t start there, with actually owning your desire, you are doomed. Own the wanting. Without apology. And all good things will start to flow from claiming the desire.” -- Danielle LaPorte

How to do a life audit.

Kate Conner says to stop collecting advice that support your natural bent, because you need to actually do the opposite:

give live


A history of the bucket list phenomenon: "What if, instead, we compiled a different kind of list, not of goals to be crossed out but of touchstones to be sought out over and over, with our understanding deepening as we draw nearer to death?"

Working on this: Commitment based on HELL YEAH.

7 questions to find your purpose.

"Adulthood as we have known it has become conceptually untenable. It isn’t only that patriarchy in the strict, old-school Don Draper sense has fallen apart. It’s that it may never really have existed in the first place... Which raises the question: Should we mourn the departed or dance on its grave?" -- A.O. Scott

"It's kind of a set-up. The world tells us to be selfless and then hands us a self."

A powerful, thoughtful meditation on death, dying and modern medicine.

"Our friends, our people, are who create the stories of our lives with us, and who will tell those stories in our absence." -- Allison Slater Tate

Weekend Reads

Happy Friday, friends! If you can listen to this song and not bounce around, then fine, you are allowed to dislike TSwift. But you're missing out!

How you can be nice and still self-promote or throw your hat in the ring. In other words, be a tiger.

Tell me you've never heard these awful (albeit hilarious) mantras in a yoga class...

Use your words.

A cool new song from one of my favorite artists, with a beautifully intimate video.

"The great thing about life is—the terrible thing about life is—that everything is mixed up. All the things that you thought were one way suddenly turn out to be another way. . . So it’s very weird. But nobody’s perfect."

Why I'm lucky to have two fantastic sisters.

"You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do."

One writer's journey to find his voice.

There are many touching, thoughtful and heartbreaking stories about Robin Williams going around lately, but this journalist's defense of covering the actor's death is an important lens.

The claim that we should eat less fish.

A critical, long piece on why Syria is terribly dangerous for reporters and journalists.

This 75-year-long study says men who have good relationships with their mamas make more money. 

In defense of typos.

Ask for what you want.