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It's officially November, and even though the temps still hold around 70 degrees this week (bare legs FTW), I know winter coat weather is right around the corner. Which means reading weather is right around the corner. I, for one, LOVE this time of year when you have plenty of reasons and excuses to binge watch your favorite TV shows and read books and browse the internet and be creative. 

To kick off that season for myself, I decided to participate in National Novel Writing Month, also known as #NaNoWriMo. Basically, the goal is to write 1500-1700 words a day to reach 50,000 words in 30 days. It's day 3, and I'm at 7,000 words. I have no illusions about my novel being even close to publishable after this month, but I did need a fancy kick in the seat to create a better daily habit of writing. So far, this is working. It's also hard, but I can do hard things.

A friend of a friend embarked on an experiment to spend 61 days off the grid. 

The 2016 election will be here before you know it. Get to know your candidates using this handy-dandy guide from The Skimm.

With kids sucking up so much of the family income with their pesky supervision needs, it’s easy to see why some parents opt out of the workforce to care for their kids on their own. And for a myriad of complex and intersecting reasons—cultural norms, the persistent wage gap, a pipeline that keeps men in business leadership positions, the likelihood of the baby’s initial primary caretaker to continue in that role—women are usually the ones who quit. This can hurt the family’s financial well-being far into the future: A woman’s earnings drop 10 percent for every two years she’s out of a job.
— Christina Cauterucci via Slate

A sobering look at child care costs and their effect on women.

Indeed, some of these articles and misrepresentations of black women and black culture are just plain ignorant and stupid. But the machines behind this ignorance—the passion and power behind those twerking from their ivory towers—are finely-tuned and then consumed by the masses. . .

To paraphrase Nicki Minaj, if you want to write about, participate in and critique our culture, ‘then you should also want to know what affects us, what is bothering us, what we feel is unfair to us.’ But you can’t learn those things if you’re too busy treating the culture as merely other, merely a form of entertainment.
— Shannon M. Houston, via Salon

Nicki Minaj and Rihanna were both recently "interviewed' (using that term loosely), and at first I read and liked both profiles. Then I read this and this. And then I got completely schooled by this article explaining that my consumption actually equals white privilege. Learned a lot.

I want to read this book on the art of asking.

Given that the production and consumption of food has a bigger impact on Americans’ well-being than any other human activity, our premise was that it deserved the same attention as such well-established federal policy areas as national security, the environment, education, or healthcare. Yet, despite its increasingly evident importance to the health of our people and our environment, the U.S. has no NFP — no plan or agreed-upon set of principles — for managing American agriculture or the food system as a whole.
— Mark Bittman, Michael Pollan, Ricardo Salvador, Olivier De Schutter, via Medium
‘I don’t know if it’s a function of age or temperament,’’ she said, ‘’but I’m no longer seeking those major exclamatory notes of pleasure. I want a life that has pleasure contained within it.’
— Terry Gross via NY Times

TERRY GROSS, Y'ALL. I'm obsessed with Fresh Air and her prowess as an interviewer.

Haven't watched this show yet, but I think I need to. Same goes for this show.

Cool look inside one of my favorite perfumeries. 

You are not your Twitter bio, your resume, your portfolio of work or your company. You are not your work. 

My aim is not to force everyone to return in lock-step to monogamous relationships that begin after exactly 8.3 dates and result in marriage 29 months later. Such relationships are not for everyone. I am a firm believer that everyone ought to exercise their God-given right to use Tinder in whatever fashion is most suitable for their present relationship goals (or lack thereof). But it ought to be acknowledged that the two of us are not, in fact, just chilling when we get together.

So, ladies and gentleman and people who do not believe in the binary, we have reached peak Chill. Or at least I hope we have. Because Chill is the opposite of something else too: warmth. And kindness, and earnestness, and vulnerability. And we need just enough of those things to occasionally do something so remarkably unchill as fall in love.
— Alana Massey via Medium

A funny and smart meditation on relationships and being "chill."

Why has paid family leave become a national campaign issue? (THIS IS IMPORTANT.)

The assumption that Danny wouldn’t even consider being the stay-at-home parent—all other things equal—captures the prevailing nature of existing norms about parenting and the need for a fundamental shift in perspective. The question shouldn’t by default be, ‘Will Mom stay home?’ if parents decide this would be best for their child, but rather: ‘Which one of us will?’
— Li Zhou via The Atlantic

I adore Mindy, and appreciate The Mindy Project's efforts at showcasing joint parenting, but as this article points out, the show's "overall portrayal of parenting provides a spot-on reflection of the current moment, but doesn’t dare to question its constraints."

Curious about Anne-Marie Slaughter's new book.

I don’t know about trigger warnings outside classes that deal with race, gender and sexuality, but I do know that if you promote trigger warnings in subjects that are supposed to make people feel uncomfortable, you’re basically promoting a culture of extreme privilege, cause I’m pretty sure that the trans women who are being murdered weekly, the black men who are victims of police brutality daily, and the neighborhoods in America that are plagued by everyday violence, aren’t given any trigger warnings. Let’s be honest: life is a trigger.
— Rani Neutill via Salon

One teacher's experience with guiding students through discomfort as both trauma survivors and, well, regular people. Her words really got me thinking, and I'm still unpacking her points.

Just gonna end with this video. Touché.