#YogaEveryDamnDay 3: Saying No

Today, I skipped yoga again. Because while catching up with my sister on G-chat this afternoon, I mentioned still feeling sick and complained about blowing my nose a million times and she replied, "Maybe you should back off from some stuff, and be a little lazy."lazy It's good advice. I'm often a people-pleaser, a yes-(wo)man, when it comes to participating in things, seeing friends, planning my days and weeks, and sticking to a schedule of short and long term goals.

For example, right now, here are my major commitments:

  • Working a full-time communications job
  • Teaching yoga 2-3 times a week
  • Serving as an Art Center Big Hair Ball event co-chair
  • Writing freelance articles for Silicon Prairie News
  • Teaching a composition class at Des Moines Area Community College starting in 2 weeks

I'm not complaining. I chose all those things and feel lucky to be a part of them. But it's a lot. And as much as I like to think I function best at high-speed, sometimes I over-commit. I'm guessing many of you can relate!

I end up with a packed schedule of great things, and then try to squeeze in seeing friends and family (who mostly live several hours away), going out for drinks or dinner with people here, focusing on my own yoga practice, going for runs or walks with Stanley, blogging, reading, volunteering, having a clean apartment, cooking, etc. I try to say yes to as much as possible, even when I know that saying no better serves my body, mind, heart and soul.

It's impossible to do it all, yet it's always tempting to want to experience every option life has to offer. Instead, I have to remember that doing nothing -- relaxing, being lazy -- is just as important as doing everything else.

So today, I said no wherever I could. I said no when my alarm clock went off for early yoga. I said no to the extra things that popped into my work email inbox, and focused on the priorities. I taught a yoga class, and figured that serving others counted for my practice today instead of trying to get to a class or to the gym. I went to a meeting with energetic, wonderful people and drank green tea. I said no to going out for drinks after. I bought chicken soup for dinner and watched Bachelor in Paradise (This show! So, so, so hilariously awful) and Pretty Little Liars on the couch. I ate banana soft serve with thin mints for dessert.

Tomorrow is a new day. (And I hope this cold is gone then, too.)

leo babauta

(image sources: 1 & 2, Pinterest)